Building a Love Life Based on Friendship First

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Building a Love Life Based on Friendship First

If you’ve ever listened to dating advice from, say, an older friend, a pastor, or even your mom, you've probably heard this before: “Make sure you’re friends first!” It sounds cliché, but there’s a reason this advice has been around forever. Think about it:

Friendship builds a foundation: When you’re friends first, you learn about each other without the pressure to impress. You can just be. You get to see each other’s quirks, habits, and real personalities—and let’s be real, you’re more likely to discover if you’re truly compatible.

Friendship reveals character: Friends see the good, the bad, and the ugly. A friendship-first approach lets you see how your potential partner treats others, handles stress, and stays faithful in their walk with God, without all the romance-driven fog clouding your view.

Friendship promotes patience: Our culture can be all about the quick fix and instant gratification, especially in relationships. But building on friendship teaches patience, a fruit of the Spirit we could all probably use more of.